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Frequently asked questions

1How does speed dating work?

Speed dating is basically the opposite of online dating, where you meet face to face first in a safe and fun environment and get to meet new people on a one on one basis in a series of 5 minute dates and then only select your matches online the following day.

2How old are the other speed daters?

We run events in a variety of age ranges, Generally we limit the age range for any one event to a maximum of 10-12 years.

I'm just outside the age range specified for an event. Can I still attend? You will not be turned away from an event if you are 1-2 years older or younger than the specified age range. You are most welcome to join us,. Please respect that other guests attending the events will be expecting to meet people within the specified age range.

3Who goes to events?

he majority of people who attend events are professional people. Mostly people come to SMARTdate events because it's an alternative to picking up or being picked up at a club.

In addition to that, most people are very busy and don't engage in sports clubs etc that would allow you to meet new people. If you're looking to attend an event, other people just like you are too!

4Why don't you run more events for people in their 40s and 50s?

We get literally hundreds of requests from women in their 40s and 50s asking us to run events.

Unfortunately we do not have enough demand from men in the same age bracket to run as many events as we would like, With speed dating you do need approximately equal numbers of men and women.

5What questions should I ask when participating at an event ?

You have 5 minutes – use it well.

Decide before you arrive: What matters? What kind of person would you like to spend more time with?

In order to create a real and authentic connection with a person one it is recommended not to ask about a person’s work or where they stay.

Think up some unusual and fun questions before the event to ask each person.

Some examples:
  • How would your best friend describe you
  • What makes you happy
  • What makes you laugh
  • What do you do for fun
  • What’s the most adventurous thing you have done
  • 6How does the matching work?

    You have 3 options Friendship / Romance or Business.

    You will have only one opportunity to tick your matches

  • If ticking business the person will automatically receive your number.
  • If ticking Romance or friendship only if the match is mutual will contact numbers be disclosed
  • Romance + Friend = the romance will change down to Friendship Match for both
  • Friend + Friend = Friendship Match
  • Romance + Romance = Romance Match
  • Friend + No = No Match
  • Romance + No = No Match
  • Business – if a person ticks this the other person will automatically receive their details this does not need to be a mutual match

  • If you see that you have a “match” but you don’t see a name or contact details, then someone selected you whom you didn’t select and therefore you won’t see their details.

    7How does it work with different cultures?

    At all events there is a mix to some extent, and so you would always be made to feel comfortable and welcome, and the match rate we have suggests have a mix of races at the events does work.

    The events are about meeting new people and expanding your social circle. If you're happy to meet people across the colour line, I'm sure you would have an enjoyable evening.

    8Hosting events in new cities

    We are busy looking for the best venue possible to have our speed dating events in Durban.

    We have run events in the past with great success, however, we are always let down by the venues.

    If you have any suggestions, we would be glad to hear them! If not, please register, so that when these events are set up again we can let you know. Looking forward to seeing you there!